Where Do We Go From Here?

Democratic Republic of Congo Stop Wait Go

On September 27th the Democratic Republic of the Congo Immigration Authorities started a suspension of issuance of Exit Permits to Adoptees for up to 12 months. After hearing this my mind has felt like a whirlwind of thoughts spinning round and round out of control. I hope that I can make sense while attempting to write them all down.
Click Here to Learn More About the Suspension

How will this affect orphans?

First I began to ask myself why did this happen and what are going to happen to the millions of orphans there? Again I don't know specifics, but I like to hope that the majority of people that have adopted and are adopting really do have the best interest of their child at heart. I wish that there were more stories in the news and media that are uplifting and happy and don't cover only the sadness and heartbreak in life and mankind. These children need to have the opportunity to not have to live in an orphanage or poverty, and if that can not be provided for them where they are why shouldn't other people try and help the best they can?
Where should society and the news/media go from here?

Democratic Republic of Congo Adoption of Our Son
How will this affect us?

Then I thought of how this would affect our decision to adopt. At the time we were still waiting on approval from immigration and our home study to be finalized. I thought of how we have set up plans to add him to our family (ie. planning his room and room rearranging, imagining him in our everyday life, thinking of purchasing a mini-van, buying boy blankets/toys, etc.) We have also already done about half of our fees towards the adoption.We feel so emotionally and financially invested in having a son.
Where do we go from here? 


Families in Democratic Republic of Congo Adoption
How will this affect other families?



Then I thought of all of the families that are further along in the process than us and may not be able to bring their child or children home. Specifically I thought of a blog I follow and how they just received their referral for twins. I feel sad for that family and any other family out there that have their hearts attached to a child that feels even further away now than the miles they already are. I hope that they make some exceptions for the families that are over there or have already been matched with a child. This is mostly speculation on my part... I don't have anymore specifics than what is on the website I provided above. I feel so unbelievably heartbroken for those families that have an image of their child and may have to wait to bring them home. Where do those families go from here?



Confused in Democratic Republic of Congo Adoption
SERIOUSLY!! Where do we go from here?

Now in the last week we have finished our dossier section of this process and are now moving onto and wrapping up the adoption training section in our adoption. We keep asking ourselves, "Where do we go from here?" I am all over the place on what we should do! One minute I think we will continue on in the process until we hit a fee and then stop and hope that our agency is respectful and doesn't jump down our throats or dump us. The next I think let's just keep going (fees and all) and hope that the suspension is lifted by the time we travel to pick him up. The next second I think let's keep going (fees and all) and who cares when we get to bring him home (if ever)... at least we can call him our son and provide for him over there. It would emotionally and financially break us to supply him with the child support fee for so long, but I hope or think it would be worth it. Then there is the fear that we do that and he still doesn't get the care or the love he needs. Seriously...
where do we go from here???


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